I knew a person once whom I will refer to as the Trapster. Her social strategy was to ensnare someone into a comfort zone, based on accepted norms of social interactions. Trapster took her time to establish various parameters and boundaries so that there was no mistaking the sociological topology, the so-called rules of social engagement for the acquaintance. Then, after a lengthy period of interaction within the established zone, Trapster would precipitate a confrontation by disclaiming some well established norm of the acquaintance. Fool me once ... .
It is unpleasant to be ridiculed, but especially by subterfuge, so it is difficult, for me, to understand what motivates someone to dispense this form of social "candor." For a social personality it pays to be trusting in the presumed good will of a new acquaintance. The obvious risk, of course, is that the presumption is unwarranted. Another case of social ordering ensues. As anything else in life, one must find a suitable balance between one's tolerance for risk and one's desire for potential benefit. In this example of a risk/reward situation, however, the risk is difficult to quantify.
Good life is just a bowl of Cheerios.™ People are work.
It is unpleasant to be ridiculed, but especially by subterfuge, so it is difficult, for me, to understand what motivates someone to dispense this form of social "candor." For a social personality it pays to be trusting in the presumed good will of a new acquaintance. The obvious risk, of course, is that the presumption is unwarranted. Another case of social ordering ensues. As anything else in life, one must find a suitable balance between one's tolerance for risk and one's desire for potential benefit. In this example of a risk/reward situation, however, the risk is difficult to quantify.
Good life is just a bowl of Cheerios.™ People are work.
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